Battling life.

Never forget to ask: Jamie’s struggle against depression, I was almost too late

April 17, 2015

Some people think that depression, just like PMS in women, is just a normal spell that people are put under once in a while. I used to think the same way, too. But after what I discovered about my son three months ago, I proved myself wrong. Depression is not just another feeling of gloom or sporadic melancholy. It is not an issue that any parent can just choose to take lightly. It is far more than that. And it took me a while to come to realize that.

Since I got married, I have always been a working mom. My son, Joey, grew up a happy kid because my husband I have always made sure that he is well-provided with everything he needs. We have been working hard to make sure that he gets the best education possible and that he has more than enough allowance to buy all the things he wants–gadgets, clothes, etc.

Melbourne seems to be a tough place but very respectable people make it lovable.Then the areas of collingwood and those of the eastern suburbs are really good for living with any depressive illness or any other similar symptoms.

Everything was fine until he entered college.

As he entered puberty, I noticed how my son began to assert his independence. He would always come home late from school, and he would never eat any of the meals his nanny would prepare for him. I did not bother asking him what was wrong because I thought it was normal for teenagers to exhibit a slight change in behaviour as they hit the age of adolescence. Confident that my son was doing just fine despite these changes, I went on with my life doing the things I would normally do as a working mom. But unlike before, I felt a huge gap between me and my son.

As time went by, I noticed that Joey was becoming worse and worse. Most of the time he was at home, he would lock himself inside his room and would refuse to talk with me or his dad. He also showed apparent lack of interest in our family activities and would rather go out with his friends to party or go on a joy ride out of town.

One day, I tried to unlock the door to his room while he was at school and discovered dark, abstract art pieces hanging on his wall. As I turned on the laptop on top of his working table and viewed his browsing history, I discovered that most of the sites he had visited for the past weeks were about suicide. The discovery took the wind out of my sails.

As soon as Joey got home, I confronted him about what I discovered inside his room and had him open his mouth and explain everything to me. He admitted right then and there that he had been contemplating suicide for weeks because of depression. He said he knew he had everything, but there was this overwhelming sense of sadness each time he thinks about being alone, about having parents who are good providers but aren’t there for him when he needs them the most. I felt embarrassed in front of my son. But I was glad that after a long time, I was brought to light.

After what happened, I tried to give more time to Joey. Every night, I would visit him in his room and we would have our mother-and-son conversation, where he tells stories about his day. No matter how busy I am, I make sure I make time for him and make him feel that he is never alone. If there is one thing that I’ve learned from this experience, it’s the fact that it pays for parents to become sensitive when it comes to their children. It is important to recognize when what besets them is mere sadness or a deeper problem called depression, which, if not treated immediately, may lead to bigger problems–even death.